The Cost Of Being An Original: A Letter From Uncle Kevin


When your dad asked me to write you a letter I began to think of the things that I could share that would change your life. Well, at least make you laugh. I thought about teaching you that having a nice round belly doesn’t mean you’re fat – it means you get paid. (That’s one of the things I taught your dad, and teased your Aunt Melissa about non-stop since I don’t have a six-pack.)

There’s a lot of pressure in writing this letter to you. Your dad is a great writer. Your Papa David is a great writer. And these letters are filled with not just great writing, but great insights as well. So naturally, I began to feel inadequate. I began to feel pressure to write you a letter that is as good as your other letters, and written well (or good, I’m not sure which to use).

I mean really, I’m just me, and I can’t do some of the things that others do. I can only do things how I do them.

But that’s ok, actually – better than okay, because no one else can do me better than me.

As you grow up you will be faced with questions about who you are. You will struggle to want to fit in and yet be an individual. All of this is normal. There are still grownups who haven’t figured out who they are yet.

While you wade through this, I want you to know one thing: you are the only you that there is!

One of the amazing things about God’s creativity is that he has made unique people! And one of the best ways you can honor him is to be you. There will be pressure to be like other people, celebrities, family members, friends, and you’ll definitely want to be like me!! (Ask Uncle Nik about his rapping days)

But don’t be a copy of someone else when God created you to be an original masterpiece!

In Ephesians 2:10, Paul writes, “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.”

You see, nephew, you were created on purpose with a purpose.

Struggling to figure out who you are can potentially just make you settle for being a copy/replica of someone else. DON’T settle!!! It’s a slippery slope once you settle once or in one area. It often makes it easier to continue to do so, and then before you know it, you barely recognize your surroundings, your life, and yourself.

God created you to be you and wants you to do amazing things with your life. Notice in that verse that he has planned good things for you. Planned them way before you were born. He has something unique just for you.

I have to be honest with you, it’s hard being yourself at times. It’s hard figuring out the masterpiece part when you don’t see it in yourself. But trust me; better yet trust God. He is the painter and has the ability to take every part of your life, the good, the bad, and the ugly, and turn it into a beautiful masterpiece.

But you have to be willing to be you. You will have to be willing to walk away from people, places and things to be the you that God wants you to be. You have to be willing to risk loosing the ordinary for a chance at something extraordinary.

That’s what Jesus offered the first disciples. A chance to be a part of something that is still going on today, but they had to be willing to go with him, to leave their family, their jobs, and who they were to be who they were supposed to be.

You also have to be naïve, nephew. Take God at His word. Believe that He means exactly what He says in His word. Believe that His promises are exactly that, promises! Believe that He can use you to change the world. He has done it with others in the Bible that were naïve enough to take Him at His word.

It’s going to be hard to figure it all out, but you have a lot of people around that want nothing more than to be a part of what God will do in your life and they will help you along the way. Mostly by showing you the bumps we have on our heads from our own struggles.

So be you! Be the masterpiece God created you to be and do the amazing things that He has planned for you!

I love you Lewis. God loves you more.

– Uncle Kevin

What if that “thing” that makes you feel different, out of the ordinary, is what will enable you to do extraordinary things?

Are you willing to give up trying to be ordinary for a chance to do something extraordinary?

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